The Art of Being A Nice Person
Some note to remember and understand. Maybe for you or myself too.
Finally i have enough bravery to write this article. Fyi, i already have some title to write in my medium draft and this title already being there for a long long time ago. So Here i come.
Being nice. Yup, some of you must already know what it means by being nice. Its simple to being nice. As simple as when you lend your friend a pencil in final examination, give some money when they economically crisis, or even more simple like always giving positive vibes with your surrounding.
Those things above look very simple and easy to do. Like you don’t have to give a lot of effort to portray your self as a nice person. As statusquo set the standard to be recognized as a nice person, i think those things above already fullfil the standard that exist.
But do you ever questioning on what if the standard that exist is’nt good enough to follow?. I mean like if the standard is like stated above, its so easy for people to always habituating their self to be look-like a nice person but they actually don’t. And i have to admit that i ever did that. I ever questioning about the quality of the standard, or even bad i ever questioning about how a nice person can get equal reciprocal/payoff the moment their surrounding is actually ignorance. But as the time goes by, i realized that questioning like i did is actually not important.
Why? because its so meaningless to always questioning. I mean instead of you questioning the standard, what if you change the standard regarding with POV that fit with yourself?. I think its much better than always questioning and ended up being clueless for what to do next. And surprisingly in the last few weeks, i got what POV that fit with myself.
So what is the art of being a nice person that i got in last few weeks ago?
1. Just do it
I mean like you have to just act and start to be nice right now no matter you get payoff or not. People nowadays just being so practicle with kindness. Like if they want to do some kindness to another people they’ll automatically think about what benefit that they get after they help/do kindness. Or expecting and equal reciprocal/payoff after they help other people.
What i want to say are:
- If you are purely nice person, payoff not really matters for you. What matters for you is just always helping people no matters are you get the payoff or not
- If you give 10 to another people, dont ever expect they will also give you 10. Maybe they will give you 7,5, or even 0. Shows to you expecting a payoff is actually unbeneficial because you will dissapointed with your own expectation
- Its also have a greater good the moment you are sincer to do kindness and not expecting to get payoff. Simply because you will not fall to the despair hole because of expectation. At best, it also help you to get greater maturity as the time goes by. You understand you do kindness because it is your mandatory as a human being.
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This song is also the reason why i have bravery to write this article. For me, this song told us about the art of being nice person inplicitly. Like the lyrics in itself told me that “hey, please just being nice and help others because we have to care each other, not because you stockin a payoff/reciprocal from other people so you can take it when you need. Do it with sincer”
2. Do it for the right person
I told you to being nice but actually you dont have to force yourself to do it for everyone. I mean its good the moment you can spread kindness to everyone but hey i know that all of us have our capacity. Its actually depends on the person per say but i sure most of you dont have that big capacity to please everyone and thats ok.
I mean, just focus to give your best attention and support to people that important to your life. Family, inner circle friends, or another type of person that have a big contribution in your life. So you wont regret your effort for them simply because they actually matters at the very 1st place and you will be more sincer to do that. More over if you focus your attention to the inner one, they’ll probably make it vice versa to you. So even you are not expecting, they probably will do that because they are your inner circle.
How about you?
