If You Losing Your Direction in Life

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There are 3 types of person in this world:

1. People that having their life very structured in every aspects. Having day by day schedule, monthly agenda, or even list of goals in 1–10 years ahead. They create the picturization of what kind of the world that they envision in the future, they already know what kind of person they want to shape themself to be, they know exactly where is the direction of their life in the future so in conclusion they already made their own “track” so they don’t have to be confuse where they gonna ended up to.
2. The opposite one. Its really hard for them to structurize their daily life even more to create some sort of “track” like the first one. Sometimes this type 2 exactly want to have clear direction in their life but its really hard for them to make their own direction because some of them still stuck in the stage of “what’s the thing that make me passionate?, what’s life value that i uphold the most?, what i seek in life?” etc. Stuck in this endless loop process is something that delaying the making process of what we called “direction” itself.
3. The people that leave everything to god. This type of person exactly didn’t have any tendency to make some sort of clear life direction because they just want to focus on the present time instead of halucinating the “track” that actually no one can sure that’s the exact “track” that will happen in our future.

Whatever your type you are, i think all of us agree that most of the people are the number 1/2 and ever in the position of questioning our self like “am i losing my direction? am i on the right track? is something that i do right now is a good decision?” etc. This thing become more problematic because if you not make your life busy with your activities, your mind usually overthink literally everything that doesn’t have to be overthink at the very first place.

Thinking about our future is okay, only if you not make any assumption for it. Whether its good assumption or bad assumption, just stop assuming everything that actually uncertain in this world. Good assumption could be a toxic positivity on how everyone thinking they could be a rich millenials working in a high fancy coffee shop with their apple laptop and have a lot of money with that job. Or maybe they assume that their education and experiences is enough to make them accepted at high famous law firm in the middle of the city and creating the exact real picturization of suits series in their future life. This become problematic because you break the basic rule of time which are past, present, future. In my thoughts, the basic rule of time are :

1. Don’t ever regret your past, learn from that past instead.
2. Give the fullest effort that you can give in the present time. Don’t forget to cherrish every moment because every seconds, every minutes, every hours you live right now is something that can’t be repeated in the future.
3. Its ok to structurize your future, but don’t ever you dare to assume your future one sided only because its only give you utopia world if you always assume good things or its only give you unnecessary pressure if you become to pessimist for your future. Plan it, but don’t ever assume how it goes.

Iam not gonna make this one very long, but i have to say i have my own peace by following those basic rule of time. So i am gonna say clearly for all of you that still in the process of developing your self, still in the process of seeking for your own self identity, just please dont overthink to much things that actually didn’t have to be overthink at the very first place. Take every process that you think you need to take, take every tears if you think every tears that you take make you gain your own peace, take every break if you think you need that to overcome your burnout. Maybe not everything will goes as you want in the future but remember every milestone that u pass, everything you working for in the present, or everything you plan for the future will make you acknowledge more what it mean to facing uncertainty and its really okay because the future is exactly uncertain and beyond of our control.

Lastly, I always wish you the best things that this life can give to you.